through you

Be a miracle maker….


Choices. Provide the safety net when needed and be there in all aspects. They still need that sense of independence at times. It’s really difficult when you have to respond with a firm “no” to certain things. Search for other things that they can do that shows them they still have some independence and can still be successful at accomplishing tasks in a safe manner. When they feel frustrated or at a loss, acknowledge their efforts to stay safe when they were unsure and try to find a way to accommodate the activity that still leaves them mostly in charge and being successful in the moment.


Make time to learn something new you’ve been wanting to try. 


Give them space. Sometimes they need the freedom to explore. Don’t leave them unsupervised, but provide a safe environment in which they can navigate and feel comfortable in doing so. Boundaries are good. It can be a bit unnerving for both of you… remember to breathe and celebrate the moment.


What discoveries in the “extras” category will you make today?


Find the things that bring them joy and provide opportunities for them to continue to experience them.

He’s looked through the seed catalogs, decided which veggies he wants to try this year and we’re just about ready for beginning the seedlings that will be transplanted into containers and the garden beds later this spring. He really enjoyed the hydroponic garden we started last year and the cherry tomatoes that lasted through New Year’s. Plans are to maintain a small container garden year round this year.


…But to feel the good feelings, we also have to be open to the hard ones. Let yourself feel; give yourself space to feel it all.  (3-Word Wisdom)


Connection! There was GREAT joy when he realized he’d conversed with four of his five boys all in a single day! He was thrilled and in good spirits for the rest of the day.


We all have a place – our uniqueness matters 


Waiting hasn’t been one of his strong points — but the last few days have provided a glimmer of hope that his patience is expanding a bit. Reminders that “it’s not time yet” have been taken much better than expected. The next appointment is nearly a month out — but reminders that he is on a waiting list for an earlier appointment is helping negate some of the anxiety of “I want the answers now!”