Kindness Matters! It can warm any winter day!
Light up your day and theirs with a smile, a conversation, a movie, a song…. awaken their spirit with things they are familiar with. We’ve been enjoying a change of pace the last few days. Mom has had a renewed interest in music, and her love of classical music and show tunes is so apparent as the twinkle in her eyes and the smiles are definitely more frequent. She taps her toes and keeps a beat with her hand on her knee. Occasionally, we’ll hear her humming along or even singing the words to the song. That’s definitely a bit of sunshine on a very wintry day.
…with the little things.
We’ve experienced so much in the last couple of weeks and a major issue with a significant shift in mobility presented itself this last weekend. We (the caregivers) weren’t quite prepared for it — and frankly neither was Mom. She experienced frustration, anxiety, sadness, anger…. the whole range of emotions… While we’ve had some similar experiences in the past, they were short lived for the most part. Not much has changed in the last couple of days and she’s “scared.” Who wouldn’t be?
Enter in the greatness work — seeing the little things that really are blessings in disguise! Smiling through. Baby steps as we make those turns and transition from chair to walker or visa versa. Planting feet for easy push up and being sure that we are balanced in our lifts. Grateful for giggles when we don’t quite get it right the first time and are willing to “try, try, again.” Chairs that “lift” when needed.
Finding a lap tray she likes that allows for balanced plates, bowls and glasses. Raised toilet seats and secure grab bars.
Family and friends who open their hearts and drop in for a visit, just because you were on their mind.
Root beer shakes (with a scoop of protein powder added) for those days when the number of her awake hours don’t give us enough time for 3 good meals. A bedtime snack with a little more protein and fruit. And yesterday, it was a straw!
The list of “little things” is long when I look at it and last evening as we reviewed our short day – we honored each other for making the day a good one despite all the stuff that didn’t go as planned; for creating opportunities in making moments better because we could AND most importantly for sharing the love and respect we have for each other with joy and dignity.
We DO HAVE so much to be thankful for!
What are you looking for today?
Don’t be afraid to stop and think about this… I totally understand that some days it’s more difficult than others.
We are blessed with a pretty wonderful familial support system. Not all caregivers and “patients” are and their worlds come crashing down when they can’t reach out to others.
Recently, we took Mom in for an appointment with her primary care physician. I guess I wasn’t expecting nor was I fully prepared for the discussion he wanted to have regarding goals and other possible outcomes for the year. While open to the process and discussion, I know I can’t make those suggested changes without the help of those in our support system. He also suggested a few things that might make our lives as caregivers easier, but some that may not.
I spent last evening thinking about the changes… and the possible silver linings that might be there… I’m still making my list, so yes, there are many potential silver linings. I’m game to have an open discussion and hope you, the reader are open to changes and silver linings too. Let’s have a #bestdayever!
Find the good. Be the good.
It’s almost like getting your second wind — you know that burst of energy at the end of a long day…the desire to accomplish more or better yet, BE MORE.
Today’s a good day to find your “second wind,” and be present.
Choose your greatness music today. Choose it well. Our self-talk can become the self-talk of those we care for. Create an attitude of greatness in all you do today…. it will play well.
Be the “extra” in someone’s “ordinary” today. #payitforward
During this season of light and love, “be the good” within your own four walls.