Don’t let the world define who you are. Be your unique you.
Acknowledge the memories of conversations that seem so vivid that they happened moments ago, yesterday or last week. These are happening more frequently and it’s been interesting to hear about the experience that happened more than 20 years ago that he refers to so often.
Reminisce often. Talk about family. Talk about experiences. Even venture into the vivid dream realm. Validate when possible.
What will your choices be today?
Make time to learn something new you’ve been wanting to try.
Give them space. Sometimes they need the freedom to explore. Don’t leave them unsupervised, but provide a safe environment in which they can navigate and feel comfortable in doing so. Boundaries are good. It can be a bit unnerving for both of you… remember to breathe and celebrate the moment.
Bring your best you with you every day.
Best news of the day….. NO CANCER! The swelling and tenderness in his breasts isn’t uncommon for men his age. We now have to figure out if it’s meds, diet or hormonal. The radiologist thinks it’s the latter to age since Dad has been on the one medication for a relatively long time. But we’ll have another visit with his PCP via phone to see what she thinks are next steps. Dad’s steps were definitely a bit lighter yesterday after hearing the news!
What will you choose to fill the pages in your story in the days to come?
It’s imaging day. Two appointments, back to back this morning. Hoping for good news and not the one that he’s ruminating on.
Don’t neglect the miracles that come your way today — they may be the entré act to the miracle(s) of tomorrow.
The computer was a draw yesterday. He actually played his Train game on the computer for a while, and made progress in the game. There wasn’t much frustration during his screen time and he was thrilled that “it all came back” as he continued to play and then save the game for the next session which I imagine might be as early as today.
Fill your day with all the good you can throw at it..