family

you are seen…

You are being seen by many you are not aware of….
continue to shine in your greatness!

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I know.  There are days when we feel so alone…. but please, know that you are not.  You are seen.  You are appreciated.  You are loved.  Our extended families and friends may not be able to voice that in this very moment.  Sometimes, being recognized is enough to fill our cups….

Yet, as caregivers we sometimes may find ourselves in a situation of feeling that we are depleted.  We give our heart and soul for those we are caring for, but who cares for us if we don’t care for ourselves?

Be sure to build in some self-care time daily, weekly, monthly.  As a caregiver, you deserve it.  It’s difficult and sometimes seemingly impossible.  Create a space where you can find refuge from the worries and cares of the day.  Build time into the routine of the day and take a few minutes to pause, reflect and renew.  If you don’t have a hobby, maybe now is the time to find one.  OR…. Pick up a magazine, read a book, pack a bag for an overnight trip and go…  enjoy a night out, take in a dinner or a movie.  Take a walk, swing in a swing, pack a picnic lunch or just go sit on the porch and breathe in some fresh air.

We’re very grateful for those sometimes all too brief moments, but relish the opportunities that do present themselves even if for what seems like a mere nano-second of time.  And when those moments come to an end, we are more prepared for those next hours or days of caring and giving our all for the benefit of someone else who needs us more and knows unequivocally that she brings joy to our hearts every day.

 

with an open heart

As we express and share our gratitude with ourselves or others,
we become more aware of it…
#nurturedheart #GrowinGreatness #Greatitudes

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As we gathered around last evening at our monthly family dinner and shared some thoughts with each other, it was a wonderful moment to relish in the joy we all felt surrounded by our love for each other.  Those “moments” created what will always be a cherished memory for this year.  Hearts a little more tender since our last meeting, knowing time with family is so precious and should be cherished.  We are grateful that they give up their time — and join us for this monthly dinner.  Our hearts are filled when we see them and can spend time with them.

Mom didn’t join us… it was another day of  “I’m too tired” and she couldn’t get herself out of bed, let alone eat a delicious meal catered by the kids.

I’m sad she didn’t have the opportunity to share a meal or cuddle with the baby — I am grateful, however, she was with us in spirit and each of our children were grateful to know she was just in the other room and each bid her a beautiful farewell as they left for their homes across the valley at the end of the evening.

As I look at the monitor, she is awake, her light is on and I’m sure she’ll be making her way out here in a little bit wearing her beautiful smile, have a twinkle in her eye  — anxious to get a start on a day —

Enjoy your day — and week.  Surround yourself with those you care most deeply about and cherish the moment.

BYOS

There will be days when you need to Bring Your Own Sunshine.. have it at the ready! #nurturedheart #GrowinGreatness #Greatitudes (image credit: unknown)

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Some days are certainly easier than others, but most always have streams and beams of brilliant light to bring out the best and most precious moments of the day.  We’ve come to cherish them.

We got a VERY early start on the day since Mom wasn’t able to sleep overnight.  So she’s spent most of the last six hours sitting in her chair, lost in thought.  Not wanting to converse, nor expecting conversation.  Not wanting any other distractions (i.e. TV, music, radio or audio book).  Just quiet — and as I look over at her now, she’s got an amazing smile on her face as I’m sure there’s a fleeting memory being recalled.

Grateful for these moments.  The quiet, the smiles, the sunshine she brings into our home each and every day.

This is the perfect way to start the day.  Hoping you’ll find a few rays of sunshine today.

the path

See yourself in the light of greatness… it is a great gift.

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I’m really very grateful for this journey and sharing in the experiences we’re having with Mom and our extended family.  Rarely an hour goes by that we don’t have the opportunity to share a little more joy, laughter, love and more on this journey.  I’m forever thankful for family being open to change, to share the responsibility and to shine the love that Mom has in ever broadening ways.

There are ups and downs, the good days and bad… but never any regrets.

If you are on the pathway of care-giving.  I hope your light continues to shine and your pathway is cluttered with many amazing moments that will forever be remembered among the #bestdays of your life.

be the light…

Light the way for others

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This pathway isn’t always clear… there aren’t always instructions for any given moment.  Sometimes, you just have to “feel your way” with your heart to light the spark for others to find theirs.  I see it daily in her smiles, small accomplishments that often are huge in her eyes.  Laughter, joy, recovering a lost memory if only for a few brief moments and the delight that brings.

I hope that as we continue our journey, these short thoughts might bring some “light” into the heart of someone else now beginning their journey or currently struggling with some aspect of living and caring for a loved one.

 

Seek the best

Seek, the good, the better, the best. Don’t settle for anything less.
#nurturedheart #GrowinGreatness #bestday #Greatitudes

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One of the things I love the most about living in a Nurtured Heart® way is that we find we are kinder, gentler, more forgiving and yet the boundaries are very clear.  Mom really doesn’t like to move any more frequently than she has to.  Getting up and down is difficult for her and her knees just don’t like to oblige at times.  Yesterday was definitely one of them.  However, we have promised her primary physician that she will “move” every couple of hours throughout her awake times.  So up it is.

Re-framing our statements to I need you to… or let’s do this together makes it so much easier and we often find a smile on her face as we acknowledge her strength and will power to make what may have seemed impossible seconds before HAPPEN in a very positive way.
As she struggles to rise from the chair, we acknowledge the strength and power in her arms and upper body… she works hard every week in PT to keep that upper strength even though she dislikes the exercises, they are helping her.  Every step forward, even the pauses as she contemplates how to move the foot, leg and even toes is met with “You’re cruising!  Look at how deliberately you’re placing your left foot in front of and to the left of your right foot.  Thanks for bringing your foot around the wheel of the walker so carefully.  You didn’t bang a single toe! ”  Acknowledgement and accomplishments rolled into one bring a smile to her face and I’ve not doubt are logged in as “I DID it.”

Even when her legs aren’t cooperating as well as we all would like and the walker becomes a wheelchair for the move, she does shuffle her feet along the way or lifts them which in turn does require more strength and concentration that we are excited to acknowledge and give lots of credit for despite her desire to just stay put in her chair for the day.

It’s not hard to see what’s going well — or to push a little more for her best, because we know it’s there.

We know that as she continues to go along her path, she will never be alone.  That’s the best we can provide for her and we are so happy to have the privilege to walk alongside.

*To learn more about the Nurtured Heart Approach®, click here.