You are good enough.  You matter. 

How many miracles will you experience today? 

Make it a RAK (Random Act of Kindness) sort of day — 

CAREGIVER NOTE:

Remember all of this is “new” to both of you. You’re headed into new territory and while some of the experiences you’ve had as a caregiver may be familiar, they aren’t to the person you’re providing care for and the path you’re taking now will not be exactly the same as the path you took previously. Be kind and patient with yourself and repeat the process as often as needed – especially with your elder at this time.

Unconditionally. 

CAREGIVER NOTE:

Re-framing has been the name of the game for the last couple of days. Hoping today is a calmer sort of day.

Make it a good day. 

breathe a little easier.

CAREGIVER NOTE:

Pelvic CT calendared. Follow up with orthopedic surgeon scheduled. Let’s hope another surgery is needed. He’s not complaining of pain and hasn’t been for over a month but his gait has changed and it’s becoming more difficult for him to put his socks and shoes on. We should know more a week from tomorrow.

Choose your lens for the day and focus in!

CAREGIVER NOTE:

It has been so much easier to hone into the “I need” moments recently. When he’s anxious about something, his voice becomes a little snippy and he does a “wringing of the hands” motion. We’ve prepared a basic list of things and run through those to see if he can zone into what it is he needs to take care of or needs help with. Yesterday, it was a little more exercise to clear his head. So we were able to go outside and take a walk. He enjoyed that and the “I need” moment was resolved easily and without a lot of extra angst in now being able to identify the problem he needed help with.

Some things on our list include:
I need to exercise – go outside for a walk or some fresh air
I need to check my finances
I need to make a call
I need to get something to eat
I need to rest

be kind.