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CAREGIVER NOTE:

Sundowning. I don’t think I need to say much more. It’s been a very long afternoon and night of agitation and frustration for him. Two different situations were playing in his mind — as if they happened yesterday. Thankfully, some food and music were helpful to move past the agitation, but sleep has been very fitful. I’ve left the lights on so he’s not fumbling around in the dark looking for a light switch. Fingers crossed we have a good day. 

CAREGIVER NOTE:
At a loss at times on how to deal with the sadness he feels. Knowing that those he wants to talk to the most are no longer here. His realization that he is the last of his generation makes it all the harder for him. He just wants to be with them, talk to them, spend time with them. He is worried about his parents – and where they are. He asked to call them again yesterday and to talk to his youngest brother. Oh, how I wish I could make that happen. We did make some other phone calls, and thankfully, they helped a bit, but the sadness is still so evident.  

CAREGIVER NOTE:

I don’t think a week would be complete without at least one clogged drain in his bathroom. Thankfully, yesterday’s clog was quick to clear and not as messy as the two previous clogs. He’s so worried about creating extra work for me or the problem being difficult to remedy. He apologized profusely and was worried, once again, that I would be upset with him. He apologized for not remembering what needed to be done to fix it — I explained that he did the right thing and in the correct steps – he told someone about the problem before it got really bad. I’m not sure that’s what he wanted to hear, but I’m grateful that he told me right away that there was a problem while it could be taken care of easily. 

Our new “suggested” afternoon routine worked well yesterday — hoping for the same results today. He was very happy that he didn’t have to change his clothing before or after dinner because they were soiled. He’s looking forward to some holiday shopping this weekend — picking out his gifts of some new shirts (with a little breathing room) and possibly a new coat as his is very well worn and is in bad shape in several places. 

CAREGIVER NOTE:

He managed to flood the bathroom yesterday. The toilet ran over after he tried to flush about 1/2 a roll of tp down at one time. I felt so bad for him. He had tried to clean it up and got a good bit of it done, but of course there was the aftermath to take care of and make sure it was really clean and safe for use again. I’m ever grateful for the 3 deep breaths and calm as we’ve been through this before, but not to the flowing of water out into the carpeted area. Bless his heart — he checked on me a couple of times while I was cleaning to make sure I wasn’t mad at him. Of course not, it was an accident and things happen… We had more important things to worry about — like what he wanted for lunch once the bathroom mess was cleaned up.

Last evening there were a couple of errands to run — I left hubby in charge… this is what I came home to:

Both of my favorite guys sacked out after a tough evening. 😉 It had been a long day for both of them.