CAREGIVER NOTE:

Fixations…. sometimes it’s just difficult to move past these and find another focus. It’s been better for us to just sit down and let him talk it through. Whether it’s something going on personally or within the household that is worrying, he needs to be heard and not brushed off. We spent a good two hours discussing the possibilities of a change in jobs for my husband. Little did I know or understand how much that worried him. He thought that the change would mean we would have to move and that he might lose his place with us here – that there wouldn’t be room for him or we wouldn’t want him to stay with us. He wanted to know if we were looking for a new house and if we would be selling ours. We talked through each of his concerns. He seemed relieved and at peace when he finally went to bed. I hope that he will remember that we’re not moving and that he will always have a place with us during our conversations today — but if he doesn’t, I’ll gladly sit down with him and we’ll talk it through again.