it’s been an interesting year — small changes add up to significant “losses” over the course of the year
Mobility and speech are the biggest ones..
Mom, we’re grateful to be your caregivers. Thank you for being a part of our family. We anticipate more changes in 2019 – and look forward with joy to every moment we have with you.
You have always been an example of love, generosity and kindness. Your sweet demeanor is a reminder of how incredibly blessed we are every day. Smiles and genuine thank you’s from the moment you get up until you go to bed.
Delight in the sunshine on a snowy day, joy in seeing a photo from long ago or visiting with a family member whose name escapes you…
Attending a family gathering and sharing loudly, “I know him, that’s my son!” Bringing the room to tears as they feel that to their very core and maybe even a bit of envy that it wasn’t a statement directed to them… but joy nonetheless to know she still knows him.
Big feelings are now a common thing for you, Mom. You’re not exactly sure why at times, but they are big. I’m grateful you don’t feel the need to hide them — or hide behind them. Tears are welcome… I just wish you could recall the reason for them. I can guess who you are missing or that the occasion brings fleeting glimpses of memories of times past. Maybe it’s even a little bit of letting go of the fear of what’s to come. We’ve had the “talk” a couple of times when you’ve brought the conversation to that point. Grateful for being able to share that conversation with you and hope that your fears are lessened a bit.
Conversations at night with others we cannot see on the monitor. The lady who sits in the chair watching over you. The doorbells announcing guests and you rise from bed hoping to greet them with your lovely smile. The relief you feel when you find you don’t have to get up “just yet” and can rest a little longer before you have to begin your day.
Oh Mom, we’ll treasure these moments forever. Thank you for sharing the past 3 years of this journey with us. We are truly blessed and honored to be on this pathway with you.