caregiver

silver linings

What are you looking for today?

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Don’t be afraid to stop and think about this… I totally understand that some days it’s more difficult than others.

We are blessed with a pretty wonderful familial support system.  Not all caregivers and “patients” are and their worlds come crashing down when they can’t reach out to others.

Recently, we took Mom in for an appointment with her primary care physician.  I guess I wasn’t expecting nor was I fully prepared for the discussion he wanted to have regarding goals and other possible outcomes for the year.  While open to the process and discussion, I know I can’t make those suggested changes without the help of those in our support system.  He also suggested a few things that might make our lives as caregivers easier, but some that may not.

I spent last evening thinking about the changes… and the possible silver linings that might be there… I’m still making my list, so yes, there are many potential silver linings.    I’m game to have an open discussion and hope you, the reader are open to changes and silver linings too.  Let’s have a #bestdayever!

possibilities

See the possibilities the day has to offer.

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It’s been an interesting couple of weeks…. I can’t say every day has ended on a good note, but the majority of them have.  Laughter and smiles are often still a norm during her awake times.
One of the questions that popped up in the last week or so for us is:
When do you as caregiver become the full time decision maker and take away one more instance of independent decision making?

I hope we can continue to allow her to make some of the basic decisions regarding her life for a while longer.  Creating space for her to feel some form of independence and still being a whole person and still feel and experience big feelings and know that it’s okay and is a healthy thing.

See the possibilities….

seek the beauty

Make something beautiful happen today…

011318 Despite the cold, the wet or the cloudy, the sun is shining somewhere.  Find the “shine” in your day and make the most of it.

I think we’ve stumbled on the right “formula” and we are “in sync” again.  It’s just taking some trial and error on the caregiver’s part (ME)  to find how things mesh with Mom again as she continues to move forward on her own journey. deeper  and deeper on the pathway of Alzheimer’s.   We are so grateful that the decline is gradual, but that slope is moving into realms of darker days than I think we’re ready to accept.

We are grateful for the beauty we’ve been able to be a part of thus far and hope the beauty of the journey will continue to be one scattered with bits of sunshine  every day.

 

connections

Connecting….

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This isn’t always the easiest thing… during the wee hours of the morning and you know the alarm is going to sound sooner than you’d like…

Last night’s wander ultimately ended back in the bedroom and to the edge of her bed.  I can only imagine her angst in not being able to figure out how to get back into bed.  I watched the monitor for a very short period of time hoping she’d figure out what she needed to do… but it didn’t happen.

She was grateful to see me as I opened her door a little bit wider — happy to hear that the problem she faced was fixable and soon she was tucked safely back in her bed again and within a very short time was sleeping peacefully again, even as I held her hand for a moment longer.  .

I love you Mom.

focus

There are treasures to be found in the magic of choosing to re-focus.


There are days when it’s difficult to look beyond what is directly in your face and blurring out everything that is going right.  Make today your day to stop, reset the lens to clear out the blur and focus in on the blessings that are there to celebrate!